Why Nutrition Advice Feels So Confusing (And What Actually Works)

It’s That You’re Not the Same as Everyone Else

If nutrition advice has ever made you feel like you’re being pulled apart limb by limb — carnivore says one thing, vegan says another, keto worked until it didn’t, hormones are the problem no wait it’s the gut no wait it’s trauma — you’re not weak.

You’re likely overstimulated.

And honestly? No wonder people hate nutrition advice.

We are living in a world where:

One person swears carnivore saved their life
Another thrives on plants
One can drink coffee daily with zero issue
Another spirals into anxiety after a single cup
Alcohol is either “toxic poison” or “totally fine in moderation,” depending on who you ask

That’s not education. That’s a tug-of-war.

And if you’ve ever felt stuck in the middle — trying to do the “right thing,” while your body quietly rebels — it can feel less like guidance and more like being drawn and quartered.

No wonder people freeze.
No wonder people give up.
No wonder people secretly hate nutrition advice.

Here’s the truth no one says clearly enough:
There is no single “right” way to eat — but there is a right way to eat for you.

And if your foundations are out, nothing works for long.

Bio-Individuality Isn’t a Buzzword. It’s the Missing Piece.

Let’s talk genetics — not in a fatalistic way, but in a finally-this-makes-sense way.

I have two clients right now who could not be more different.

One has a slow COMT:

Highly sensitive to stimulation
Overwhelmed by too many supplements
Does best with simplicity, rhythm, and fewer levers pulled at once

The other has a fast COMT:

Needs more fuel
More support
More dopamine-friendly inputs just to feel steady

If I gave them the same protocol, I’d break one of them.

Different biology requires different strategies — not because someone is “fragile,” but because their nervous system processes inputs differently.

And then there’s me.

I sit right in the middle: balanced COMT, but with double copies of MTHFR — which means I’m not especially fragile, but I am very sensitive to how nutrients are delivered, which forms I use, and how much load I put on my system at once.

This is where people usually have the biggest aha.

Plant vs Animal Foods: The Omega Story No One Explains

Some people carry genetic variants that make it hard to convert plant-based omega-3s (ALA) into the forms the body actually uses — EPA and DHA.

For those people:

More flax, chia, or walnuts doesn’t help
Plant-heavy diets feel inflammatory or depleting
Brain fog, joint pain, or mood issues quietly improve when animal-based fats are reintroduced

So when those people try carnivore or animal-forward eating, it can feel miraculous — like their body finally got what it’s been asking for.

Other people convert just fine.
Or tolerate plant anti-nutrients beautifully.
Or genuinely feel better with more plants.

Same food. Different genetics. Different outcomes.

No one is lying.
They’re just speaking from their own biology.

Autoimmunity Adds Another Layer (And This Is Where Advice Really Breaks)

Then there’s immune balance.

Some autoimmune conditions skew TH1-dominant.
Others skew TH2-dominant.
Some people are relatively balanced.

This matters more than most people realize.

What “boosts immunity” for one person can quietly aggravate flares in another.
What feels calming and supportive in one body can be inflammatory in the next.

This is why:

One person thrives on certain plant compounds or herbs
Another feels worse — sometimes dramatically worse
And why autoimmune advice online often sounds confident… and still fails people

Without context, good advice becomes bad advice.

The Stress of “Doing It Right” Is Often the Thing Breaking You

Here’s the part people rarely want to admit:

At some point, the constant trying becomes the problem.

When every meal feels like a moral decision.
When food becomes math.
When enjoyment disappears.
When you’re doing “all the right things” but your body won’t unclench.

That stress alone can shut down digestion, disrupt sleep, spike blood sugar, and stall healing — even if your food choices are technically perfect.

We are not machines.

We are:

Circadian beings
Mineral-dependent
Designed for light, rhythm, movement, safety, and pleasure

You can focus on gut healing forever.
You can chase hormones endlessly.

But if you’re:

Undereating
Under-sunning
Under-moving
Overstimulated
Under-rested
Disconnected from enjoyment and satiety

Nothing sticks.

Healing cannot happen in fight-or-flight.

About Wine, Coffee, and the Demonization of Real Life

Let’s clear something up.

Jesus drank wine.
He turned water into wine.

Not red-dye cocktails.
Not industrial seed-oil nonsense.
Real wine. In context.

The problem isn’t real food or real drink.

It’s:

Additives
Ultra-processing
Overconsumption
Poor timing (especially when it wrecks sleep)
Using stimulants to prop up a depleted system

Some people truly need to avoid alcohol or caffeine — at least for a season.
Others do just fine with moderate, intentional use.

Nuance doesn’t trend.
But it heals people.

Sometimes It’s Not What You Eat — It’s How

Another overlooked truth:

Some people don’t need a new diet.
They need better digestion and absorption.

That can look like:

Eating meat and vegetables separately instead of piled together
Letting protein digest without being “capped at the knees” by fiber or starch
Supporting bile and stomach acid instead of cutting entire food groups

Not trendy.
Just physiology.

So… How Shall We Then Live?

Not scared of food.
Not chasing perfection.
Not bouncing from protocol to protocol.

But grounded in:

Real food
Enough protein
Enough minerals
Enough sunlight
Enough movement
Enough rest
Enough enjoyment

And supported — not overwhelmed.

What’s Coming (And Why)

Right now, I only have capacity to work deeply with two 1:1 clients at a time.

That’s not scarcity marketing.
That’s real life — neurodivergent homeschooling, a toddler, and a family I actually want to be present for.

So I’m building another way to support people well — without burning anyone out.

Inside my Substack Founders Vault, I’m expanding what already exists into something more complete and usable:

A true elimination & reintroduction protocol (not fear-based, not forever, actually livable)
A Foundations course that addresses digestion, blood sugar, minerals, light, movement, and nervous system regulation first
Plus my earlier work on repairing leaky gut, which many of you already have access to

And I’m exploring ways to add live support, like:

Quarterly Q&A calls
Or a lighter-touch weekly or monthly check-in tied to one of the Vault programs

This isn’t about more content.
It’s about less confusion — with guidance you can actually integrate.

The Honest Invitation

You can keep trying to solve yourself in isolation.
Or you can step into support that respects both your biology and your life.

If you’ve felt seen while reading this — that’s not accidental.

It’s because this work isn’t about rules.
It’s about coherence.

And coherence changes everything.

Apply to work with me Join the Founders Vault

The Problem Isn’t That You’re Doing It Wrong